The Most Depressing Thing About Being A Pastor.

“Apart from these external things, there is the daily pressure upon me of concern for all the churches”   (2 Corinthians 11:28).

When showing his scars and enumerating his sufferings, Paul ends with a mention of the daily care of the Lord’s people. That was a great burden also.

You don’t bleed from caring for the Lord’s flock. But you hurt as much as if you did.

The worst part of pastoring, the burden that keeps hammering you down into the ground, is the perfectionism.

It’s not something the Lord puts on us—well, not any more than on anyone else—because “He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust” (Psalm 103:14). He is under no illusions about any of us. The quickest way to divine frustration, I would think, is for the Father to expect perfection from His children.

He’s smarter than that. Thankfully.

Nor is it something the congregation puts on us. The members know we’re human, even if some do tend to lose sight of that sometimes.

(Just today I heard of a pastor whose teenage daughter has come up pregnant, and some in the church are calling for the pastor’s resignation. He ministered to them in their crises, but let him go through one and a few are ready to cut him off. What is wrong with such people?! God bless the leadership of this church and help them do the right thing.)

The perfectionism that hounds the pastor and nags at him without letup, he mostly puts on himself.

After all, he reasons, we are doing the work of Almighty God, the Creator of the universe. We are holding in our hands the Gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ, a treasure beyond compare. If we do our work well, people will live forever with Christ in Heaven. And if we do it poorly, many will miss Heaven entirely and spend eternity in what the Bible calls “outer darkness” and hell fire.

That’s enough to keep a fellow awake at night.

In the Spring 2014 issue of Esperanza magazine, ice-skating champion Dorothy Hamill talks about the depression she has fought most of her life. Even as a child, when she was pulling down titles—her first national championship at 13 and first international title at 17—nothing was ever good enough for her mother.

The writer said, “Carolyn’s inability to praise her daughter’s achievement or share in her happiness diluted Hamill’s joy at winning Olympic gold in 1976.”

It’s a familiar story, unfortunately. However, for the minister of the gospel, the problem tends not to be a frowning mother just off-stage ready to point out the flaws in his service for the Lord. It’s himself.

We are our own nagging mama.

After a full day of ministry at church, the pastor often tells himself the things a harsh parent would say …

§  “You could have done better.”

§  “That introduction to the sermon did not work.”

§  “You forgot to mention Deacon Crenshaw’s upcoming mission trip.”

§  “That story you told was unclear; people didn’t get it.”

§  “You left out the very scripture that makes the point of the sermon.”

The list is endless. We should all be given PhD’s on beating ourselves up. We’re experts. (It’s our spiritual gift—tongue in cheek.)

As a result of this kind of self-condemnation, many of us …

Ø Constantly berate ourselves, second-guess ourselves and perform autopsies on everything we do in the ministry.

Ø Live in fear of our flock’s rising up and demanding someone better than us.

Ø Admire and envy the Joel Osteen types who seem never to have had a moment of self-doubt but go from success to greater success.

Ø Vacillate between an overwhelming gratitude for the Lord’s mercy (“He has not dealt with us according to our sins nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.” —Psalm 103:10) and an overpowering guilt over our weaknesses and inadequacies (“Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from this body of death?” —Romans 7:24).

There is a remedy for this.

 It’s dealt with so many places throughout Scripture that it seems insulting to our readers to express it in one way and call that “the” remedy.

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in me” (John 15:4).

“Not that we are adequate to think anything of ourselves; but our adequacy is of God”              (2 Corinthians 3:5). And then, one chapter later: “We do not preach ourselves, but Christ Jesus as Lord, and ourselves your servants for Jesus’ sake” (2 Corinthians 4:5).

“This is the victory that overcomes the world, even your faith” (I John 5:4). And on that theme, consider these: “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man” (Psalm 118:8)—especially if that “man” is yourself; this is not about us! “Trust in the Lord forever, for in God the Lord, we have an everlasting Rock” (Isaiah 26:4). “The fear of man brings a snare, but he who trusts in the Lord will be exalted” (Proverbs 29:25).

For the servant of God, trusting in the Lord means …

·        I do not look to my feelings or emotions for affirmation.

·        I’m going forward in faith that God is alive, Jesus Christ is in this place, and to serve Him faithfully is the best thing ever! Let’s do it!

·        I am not my own master or judge.

·        Whether I approve of today’s sermon or this week’s study is beside the point. A servant stands or falls only to his own master (Romans 14:4).

·        I will not wait until my offering (my prayer, my song, my sermon, my gift) is perfect before presenting it to the Father.

·        I will give Him my best, imperfect though it may be.

·        I will not become a slave to numbers or success as the world judges.

Jesus said we should not rejoice that the spirits are subject to us, but that our names are recorded in heaven (Luke 10:20).

I will not be my own press agent, my own public relations department, the keeper of my career, or the recorder of my statistics.

What if the football player stopped after every play and totaled up the yards he had gained, then pulled from his back pocket a book where he added them in. No. Instead, he gives very little thought to the number of yards gained or lost on one play because he knows “someone up above” is watching the game and recording it, and when the final whistle has sounded, the full report will be in. His job is to play the game as well as he knows how.

So, let’s get on with it. 

Let’s go forward by faith.

Faith that my little bit is precious in His sight.

Faith that He can do miracles with small things.

Faith that He called us and sent us and is accompanying us, so we are not limited by our own abilities and our own resources.

Faith that what looks like nothing to the world may be massive in His eyes.

Faith that the faithful “will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous” (Luke 14:14)!

After five years as Director of Missions for the 100 Southern Baptist churches of metro New Orleans, Joe retired on June 1, 2009. These days, he has an office at the First Baptist Church of Kenner where he's working on three books, and he's trying to accept every speaking/preaching invitation that comes his way. He loves to do revivals, prayer conferences, deacon training, leadership banquets, and such. Usually, he's working on some cartooning project for the denomination or some agency.

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