This is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance (and for this we labor and strive) that we have put our hope in the living God who is the Savior of all, and especially of those who believe.
1 Timothy 3:9-10
Thursday, October 27, 2016
Three Sure Ways to Create Conflict
“Any fool can start arguments; the
honorable thing is to stay out of them” (Proverbs
Wise people are peacemakers, not
troublemakers. Wise people don’t carry a chip on their shoulder. They’re
not always looking for a fight, and they don’t intentionally antagonize
The fact is, if you’re around anybody for
any length of time, you’ll figure out what that person does that irritates
you, and you file that information in the back of your mind as a tool to
use when you get in an argument. It becomes a personal “weapon of mass
destruction”! When you get in an argument, and that person says something
that hurts, offends, or slights you in any way, then you pull out the big
gun. You push the hot button. And it works every time!
You know what the Bible calls that?
Foolishness! You’re not getting any closer to the resolution. You’re not
helping the relationship. In fact, you’re hurting it. It is not wise.
Proverbs 20:3 says, “Any fool can start
arguments; the honorable thing is to stay out of them” (TEV).
We all use tools, tricks of the trade, and
skills in relationships that are actually counter productive. They’re
hurtful, they’re harmful, and they don’t get you what you want out of
relationships. In fact, they get you the exact opposite behavior. But when
we lack wisdom, we use them anyway.
There are many of these tools, but here are
just a few:
compare your wife, your husband, your kids, your boss, or anybody else,
because everybody’s unique. Comparing antagonizes anger.
you start laying on the guilt in a relationship, all you’re going to do is
get the exact opposite of what you expect. It doesn’t work. It’s foolish.
James, the famous psychologist said, “Wisdom is the art of knowing what to
overlook.” There’s some stuff you just need to overlook.
The Bible says in Proverbs 14:29, “A
wise man controls his temper. He knows that anger causes mistakes” (TLB).
Have you ever said or done anything stupid out of anger? Yes? Because when
you get angry, your intelligence goes out the window. When you get angry,
you say and do foolish things that are actually self-defeating.
Did you ever think about the fact that
there is only one letter difference between “anger” and “danger”? When you
get angry, you are in dangerous territory. You are about to hurt others —
and yourself — with your own anger.