Burnout is a function of our total
life management. Burnout is never caused by a single
area of life. Burnout is a function of our total life management.
One area of life cannot get out of
order without overt choices of neglect being made in other areas of life. This
means that if we managed the other areas of our life well, it would have
contained the area (i.e., work, ministry, parenting, etc.) that was the primary
cause of burnout.
We must resist the temptation to
blame life, or even one area of our life management, for the experience of
burnout. Burnout is a result of how we have managed our life as a whole.
So, we might begin our assessment of
burnout’s cause with this foundational statement—burnout is the result of
living beyond our means with the time God has provided.
It is common to say that someone is
“living beyond their means” financially. There is a cultural epidemic of people
spending more than they earn. The majority of Americans have a negative net-worth;
we owe more than we own.
We will use this parallel of
financial and time management many times, so begin to think in these
categories.
The first thing God’s fairness
requires of the person moving toward burnout is to rest in the fact that everything
fits in a 168 hour week.
This means that even if there are
200 hours worth of excellent things to be accomplished in a week, that you can
have assurance at least 32 hours of your agenda are outside the will of
God for your life; not “outside the will of God” in terms of being bad, but
“outside the will of God” in the sense that God will accomplish this, if it
needs to be done, through someone else.
Budgeting rest, work and family.
In order to think this way, you must
have an intentional plan for how you use your time. Like a financial budget, it
must be detailed enough to be useful, flexible enough to be practical and
looked at enough to alter your life.
Let me begin by offering some
general parameters for this time budget.
First,
you should allocate at least 50 hours per week to sleep.
This is a bare minimum of honoring
the Sabbath command to express faith in God by resting a significant portion of
each week.
Second,
you should budget around 50 hours per week for work.
Even before the Fall, God called
every person to productively use his or her life for the betterment of others
and stewardship of creation (Genesis 1:28). Allocating these hours may be
easier for someone who works an hourly job than for those who are business
owners, independent contractors or full-time parents.
But some limit must be put on this
sector of life or our defeating motive (i.e., greed, ambition, people-pleasing,
guilt, perfectionism, etc.) will expand this aspect of life until it destroys
the others.
When the rest of life is destroyed,
productivity loses its purpose.
Third,
you should budget at least 17 hours per week for marriage and family.
This number is chosen a bit
arbitrarily, but it represents a tithe (10 percent) of your time devoted to
family. Being part of a family will strongly influence your usage of the rest
of your time.
This 17-hour time allotment is a
recommended minimum amount of time to set aside for exclusive focus on family.
If you are married with children, it would be very difficult to have “quality”
time with your family if this “quantity” of time is not being met.
“Family time” does not merely mean
“in the same building at the same time.”
A useful definition of “family time”
would be “investing my full attention in something that affirms my spouse or
child by allowing me to know them better and makes them feel more known by me.”
What kind of activities fit this
description will vary widely based upon factors such as personality, interest,
age and season of life. But the main point is that family time reinforces and
strengthens the sense of knowing and being known within the family.
Budgeting "the rest of
life."
Fourth,
if you follow the recommendations above, that leaves 51 hours to be allocated
for “the rest of life.”
The other parts of life should feel
“holy” (set apart by God) before the week begins. In the first 117 hours of the
week you are merely looking for the most situationally-wise and enjoyable way
to accomplish rest, family time and productivity.
It is only in these last 51 hours
that we should feel an additional degree of freedom about how to use them.
For many people, this mindset will
be uncomfortable, but when we call ourselves “God’s servant” and claim to live
“under the Lordship of Christ,” this necessarily places a limit upon our
freedom.
Within the first 117 hours, we are
free within the God-given role of finite creature, spouse-parent and productive
worker. Within these last 51 hours, we are called to do maintenance, service
and recreation.
Maintenance: This involves cleaning one’s home, mowing the yard,
going to the grocery, paying bills and the other mundane activities
necessary for life. In this area, a grandmother’s advice on home
cleanliness provides sound guidance for all areas of life maintenance: “A
home should be clean enough to be healthy and messy enough to be happy.”
Recreation: This involves the kind of activities that you find
rewarding and replenishing that place you in the mental, physical and spiritual
condition to serve God and others. Life requires more than 50 hours of sleep
in order to be healthily sustained. Here the advice is to know yourself—what
restores you, gives you energy or relaxes you? Whatever these things are
should be a regular part of your schedule.
Service: This involves service through your church to the congregation
and community for the purpose of spreading the gospel to the ends of the
earth and deeper into the lives of those around you. The discussion that
follows will focus primarily upon this area since that is the particular
area of life that this document is designed to prevent from becoming a
contributor to burnout.
No recommended percentages or time
allotments can be given for these three areas. But it should be noted that all
three are essential to healthy living and should be given time.
Healthy relationships are those that
actively help you guard and honor balance in all three of these areas of
involvement.
By: Brad Hambrick
Here is a time budget tool to help you implement these concepts: Burnout Time Budget
You can order my booklet on burnout here.
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