Thursday, August 8, 2013

Why Is My Church Not Growing?


I am drawing a circle around an audacious prayer request about out church growth.  I am reading a powerful book on prayer and I am in prayer, trusting and believing that before the first snow falls in the Triangle area of NC this year, I will stand before over a congregation that averaged over 100 people in our Worship Center for Sunday worship.  Read about it here. Join me in this prayer and invite others to join you in church.  God is already at work.  My vision is increasing for our ministry.

Here is an article that peaked my interest:

 
Why Is My Church Not Growing? 
Question:  My church is not growing. People come but they do not stay. We’ve analyzed all the majors and feel we are doing what we should but they do not stay. Any thoughts please?
Response: I receive something similar almost weekly. I wish I had answers every time. I don’t. Most of the time I know many times they can’t afford a consultant (or don’t think they can, but should consider the investment), so I try to give them a few suggestions, in the limited time I have, to think through their issues.
Here is an expanded version of my typical answer:
It’s hard to diagnose here without more information. I do believe God wants the church to grow. We are to make disciples and part of discipleship is make more disciples. That in and of itself is growth.

A few quick comments first:
◦God is in charge of the numbers. People can disagree with me (and do) when I say I believe healthy churches are growing. Some grow in different ways. Some internally and some by raising up people who go outside the church to make disciples. Regardless of how growth occurs, all of us must agree God is ultimately in control.

◦The Holy Spirit grows people and therefore the church. We aren’t without responsibility in doing our part. We’ve been given an assignment to be a body with many parts, but we don’t ultimately grow people or churches.

◦Churches go through seasons, just as individual believers do. There are seasons we grow more than others and seasons we are simply maturing to grow later.

◦There are no cookie cutter answers. Just as God makes people unique, churches are unique because they are comprised of unique people.

With those clarifications, here are a few quick thoughts to help you discern your particular situation:

1. Do a survey of anyone who visited in the last year. Ask them why they stayed or didn’t stay. Ask them for ideas they have to improve a visitor’s experience. Ask them how they found the church. Be prepared for some hard answers, but you may discover things you aren’t seeing.

2. Do a church wide/or leadership wide half day brainstorming session, depending on the size of your church. You want enough people to have a wide range of ideas, but not so many that you never get anything accomplished. I’ve done this with 12 and I’ve done it with 100. That’s getting a little large, but you don’t want to exclude people who are genuinely concerned and want to help the church. I prefer people who have positive dispositions, but you need a range of thought. You might even bring someone in to facilitate this process. Many times there are answers in the room that come from collected thinking. Ask, why aren’t people staying and what can we do?

You may need to do a second half day, perhaps with a smaller group, to summarize and make conclusions from the feedback of the larger group. In my experience, you will produce some key thoughts from an exercise like this which will spur momentum, in addition to creating renewed energy among these key leaders. (But you’ll have to act on some of the suggestions.)

3. Pay a community member (or a professional consultant if you can afford it) to “secret shop” your church and give you honest feedback. You can often find someone to do this free of charge simply to help the church, but there are professionals who know what to look for in a church visit. Many times we can’t see what’s missing on our own.

The bottom line is that you’ll have to do something intentional to get the answers you don’t have. There are good church consultants out there if you want to take that step. Let me know if you want some names and contact information. But, keep asking the questions you’re asking. Our mission as a church hasn’t changed, but the culture around us is changing rapidly. We must continue to grow as church leaders in order to continue to make new disciples.

Praying for you.

How would you respond?

Posted from: Ron Edmondson:  Church planter and pastor with a heart for strategy, leadership and marketing; especially geared toward developing churches and growing and improving the Kingdom of God.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Praying for you...

This evening we gather for prayer at 6:30pm at NRN.  I thought I would share a classic moment from southern gospel music with a powerful message about prayer:




Something should be said about faithfulness in ministry.  Listen to this group now:



Tuesday, August 6, 2013

A recommendation - The Ultimate Life

Last evening I had the opportunity to preview a movie before it is released in September.  I really enjoyed the movie The Ultimate Gift.  I own the DVD version of this movie released in March of 2007. If you enjoyed The Ultimate Gift you will really enjoy the Ultimate Life.

THE ULTIMATE LIFE is truly The sequel (and prequel) to the award-winning The Ultimate Gift

Between the pressure of running a foundation started by his late grandfather, being sued by his greedy extended family, and seeing his beloved Alexia leave on an extended mission trip to Haiti, Jason Stevens' world is unraveling. But when Jason discovers the lifelong journal his grandfather began as a Depression-era lad, Red Stevens' writings transport Jason to a front-row seat on an incredible rags-to-riches ride. With everything he loves hanging in the balance, Jason hopes he can discover THE ULTIMATE LIFE. Opening in theaters September 6, THE ULTIMATE LIFE reminds us some things are worth more than money!

The Ultimate Life was made right here in North Carolina.  Michael Landan Jr. is the director.  Here is a clip about the heart of the movie:



I highly support this movie and hope that pastors and lay leaders will plan to take a group of people to see this family friendly movie.  I plan to promote it and support it in my local area.  This is a perfect movie to begin preparation for the Thanksgiving season.  The themes of the movie will provide some great clips about thankfulness; stewardship; contentment; relationships; the purpose of life and legacy.

Mark the date of Friday September 6, 2013 and plan to support this family friendly movie.

Here is the official trailer: 





Monday, August 5, 2013

Burned Biscuits - A lesson we all should learn.


 

 Burned Biscuits - A lesson we all should learn.

 When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!

 All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing...never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

 When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said, "Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then."

 Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides--a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!"

 As I've grown older, I've thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.

 I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

 And that's my prayer for you today...that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn't a deal-breaker!

 We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

 "Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket--keep it in your own."

 So, please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burned one will do just fine.

Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

 "Life without God is like an unsharpened pencil--it has no point"

Sunday, August 4, 2013

Reflections of ministry for August 4 2013


 
Today is served in my church at NRN and also in our daughter church IECON.  A reflection from the morning is the need for unity in the church and for us to just get along in the church.  It is good to be reminded of the "one anothers" in scriptures:

Ø Greet one another (Rom. 16:16, 1 Cor. 16:20, 2 Cor. 13:12, 1 Pet. 5:14)

 
Ø Comfort one another (1 Thess. 4:18) 


Ø Forgive one another (Col. 3:13) 


Ø Build one another up (Rom. 15:2; 1 Thess. 5:11) 


Ø Serve one another (Gal. 5:13) 


Ø Bear one another’s burdens (Gal. 6:2)


Ø Encourage one another (Heb. 10:25) 


Ø Meet with one another (Heb. 10:25) 


Ø Be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving toward one another (Eph. 4:32, Rom. 12:10)


Ø Receive (welcome) one another as Christ received us (Rom. 15:7)


Ø Care for one another (1 Cor. 12:25)


Ø Minister one to another (1 Pet. 4:10)


Ø Show hospitality to one another (1 Pet. 4:9)


Ø Pray for one another (James 5:16) 

Don’t wait for others to do these things—or criticize your church because people don’t . . . you do these things.

© Revive Our Hearts. Used with permission.



Friday, August 2, 2013

Preparing for Worship on Sunday August 4, 2013

The last few days have been very hectic with ministry responsibilities.  I am so glad to be a servant of the Creator, Almighty God!  I pray the my life may be dedicated to Him and I strive to live to the praise of His glory each and every moment of every day.

As I prepare for worship tomorrow I realize the order of worship is quite different than usual.  Pastor Jordan and Pastor Carlos are out of town and I am assisting with a major situation in our daughter church -  IECON.   I deeply appreciate all our worship team members and volunteers who prepare for worship. I have asked Pastor John Kelley to bring the message in the morning.  I am trusting God for a moving of His Spirit upon us.  I will be in the worship for the first portion of our time together.  God is speaking to my heart about a brief message I have for our church.  Here is the current order of worship for tomorrow:

We will begin with a call to worship and prayer then stand to proclaim our praise to the Lord:








We now take our petitions and request to our faithful God in prayer.

Now is a time to offer our financial gifts in obedience and love for the Lord.  May we as stewards be found faithful and we give our money to God and sing a testimony of how great He is...



We will continue in our worship of our great God....







Let us turn our attention to the preaching of God's Word....

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Mama, the cat ate the Gaithers

Tonight we gather for prayer at NRN.  I usually post about the importance of prayer, but I also felt I should share a clip that DJ and some others from our church would really like.  Here's the clip:






Now that you have enjoyed a good laugh... consider joining us for prayer at NRN at 6:30 this evening.  I my reading this week - here are a few quotes that touched my heart:


“Bold prayers honor God, and God honors bold prayers. God isn’t offended by your biggest dreams or boldest prayers. He is offended by anything less. If your prayers aren’t impossible to you, they are insulting to God."


"Most of us don’t get what we want because we quit praying. We give up too easily. We give up too soon. We quit praying right before the miracle happens."