A recent Barna study owned me. The survey revealed that
51 percent of North American Christians polled possess attitudes and actions
that are more like the Pharisees than they are like Christ. In other words, the attitudes of most Christians were
described as self-righteous and hypocritical. According to the study, only 14 percent of Christians
surveyed reflected attitudes and actions that better resembled the attitudes
and actions of Christ.
What surprised me (as well as study author David
Kinnaman) is how my attitudes and actions still need work ... I’m far too much
like a Pharisee and not enough like Jesus. I was so bothered by it, I taught an
entire series about it. And you can watch a conversation David Kinnaman and I
had about the research here.
And what breaks my heart is that I think the Pharisee in
many of us is killing the mission and effectiveness of the church.
So how do you know how much Pharisee resides within you?
In defense of the Pharisees (well, almost defense).
Before we jump to that, I understand that in many church
circles to simply say the word "Pharisee" is to immediately conjure up
an image of a villain.
Pharisee = bad.
And yet the Pharisees were to some extent well-meaning
people. They studied the law and knew it as well as anyone. Their downfall,
among other things, centered on their self-justification and self-importance.
But there’s evidence that some Pharisees were sincerely
seeking God. After all, Nicodemus and Joseph of Arimathea, both Pharisees,
arranged for Jesus’ burial. They were sympathetic to Christ and, from what we
can tell, ultimately ended up following him. Similarly, the mission of the early church was radically
advanced by a converted Pharisee—Paul.
And yet, Jesus condemned the Pharisees for their pride,
lack of compassion and hypocrisy.
The irony, of course, is this: The people who purported
to love God most ultimately killed him when he showed up.
This isn't about Jews and Gentiles. It’s about religious
people (like you and me) who in the name of God deny who God really is.
Denying God is exactly what we do when our attitudes
justify ourselves more than they reflect the heart and love of Christ.
The attitude of many Christians today is more like the Pharisees than it is like Jesus.
10
things Pharisees today say.
So what do today’s Pharisees say?
Based in part on the research and in part on my own
experience, here are the top 10 things today’s Pharisees say.
A
word of caution: As you read them, don’t think about who
these phrases remind you of nearly as much as you think about how they reflect
your attitude and actions.
If we all do that, we will all be better off and the church
will be stronger for it:
1. “If
he knew the Bible as well as I did, his life would be better.”
Yup, there it is. Judgment and self-righteousness rolled
up into a neat little package. I really, really, want people to read their
Bibles. But when I get smug and superior about reading mine, I miss the point.
2. “I
follow the rules.” And if you do,
awesome.
But that’s not what got you into Christianity, is it? You
got in because of the mercy of Christ extended to you when you broke the rules.
Following the rules doesn't keep you in the love of God
any more than it got you into the love of God.
So why follow the rules? Following the rules is a
response to the love of God.
And your attitude should be one of gratitude, amazement
and humility.
3.
“You shouldn't hang around people like that.”
I get that we have to choose friends for our kids
carefully.
But when applied to adults, this mostly stinks.
One of the reasons many churches aren’t growing is
because Christians don’t know any non-Christians.
If many of us were preaching the parable about being the
salt of the earth today, we’d switch it up and command the salt to stay in its
hermetically sealed box and never touch any food.
Of course, Jesus said the opposite. Salt needs to get out
of the box to season food.
And Jesus paid a price for that among religious people.
They couldn’t fathom why he would hang out with tax collectors, hookers and
other notorious sinners.
When was the last time you hung out with a hooker?
Convicting, isn’t it? Disturbing, isn’t it?
Yes it is.
4.
“God listens to my prayers.”
Prayer is amazing. And we do trust that God listens to
our prayers.
But, as we’ve said before in this space, prayer is not a
button to be pushed nearly as much as it is a relationship to be pursued.
The smugness and certainty with which many Christians
talk about prayer must strike people as weird, weird, weird.
The biblical portrait of prayer is as much about broken
people embracing the mystery and majesty of a forgiving God as much as it is
about anything.
When prayer becomes a predictable formula that
manipulates or controls God, you can be pretty sure you’re no longer praying.
5.
“Sure I have a few issues, but that’s between me and God.”
And if you keep it between you and God, people will never
be able to relate to you.
Perfect on the outside and flawed on the inside—that’s
the accusation Jesus levied against the Pharisees.
When people on the outside look at pretend-to-be-perfect
Christians, it does three things:
·
It alienates them.
·
It makes them think you’re fake … because
even they know we’re all broken.
·
It suggests God can’t help them.
The antidotes:
Transparency; Vulnerability; Honesty.
When you let people know you don’t have it all together
but you’ve met an amazing God, many people suddenly want to join in.
6. “They
just need to work harder.”
Jesus loved the poor and had compassion on broken people.
Many Christians today don’t. (Self-righteousness rears
its ugly head again.)
Yes, I am very familiar with the passages in scripture
that talk about hard work and prudence. I try to live by them.
But when I allow my relative ‘success’ to serve as a
basis to judge others … I miss mercy.
Compassion should be a hallmark of Christians. The early
church’s compassion in the first few centuries after Jesus' resurrection was
one of the key reasons the Christian faith spread so rapidly, even a midst extreme persecution.
7. “Of
course I’m a Christian.”
Few people are better at explaining the difference
between moralistic self-righteous religion and authentic Christianity these
days than Tim Keller.
Keller points out again and again in his preaching that
religious people say things like, “Of course I’m a Christian” … and that
underneath is a pernicious idea that they have somehow earned the favor of God
by their obedience and faithfulness.
True Christians, he says, by contrast are filled with
wonder, amazement and gratitude that God would accept them despite their
brokenness? When asked whether they are Christian, they say things like:
"I know, isn’t that unbelievable?
Can you believe that God would extend his mercy to someone
like me through Christ?
I am amazed!
Grateful; Overwhelmed!” I love Keller’s heart on this.
8.
“More people need to stand up for Christian values.”
As Christendom slips away in our lifetime here in the West,
we long for what used to be.
But moving forward, we will have more in common with our
first-century counterparts in Christianity than with our 20th-century
forebears. They lived out their faith in a world that didn’t share their
values, but rather than fight their non-Christian counterparts, they laid down
their lives for them.
While some people might get very angry and demand that we
stand up for Christian values, I think the biblical argument runs the other
way.
As I outline here, maybe one of the best things
Christians today can do is let non-Christians off the moral hook.
Christians should live out Christian values deeply and
authentically. But why would we hold non-Christians to a standard they don’t
believe in anyway?
Jesus and Paul never appeared to do this … not even once.
9.
“I’m simply more comfortable with people from my church than I am with people
who don’t go to church.”
Which is one major reason why you and your church are
incredibly ineffective at reaching unchurched people.
If you want to change that, go to some parties and get to
know some people who are far from God.
You will discover that God likes them. And you might
discover that you do too. And people who didn’t used to follow Jesus might even
start following Jesus.
10.
“People who don’t go to church can come if they want to.”
And Nero fiddled while Rome burned.
Too many churches are all about the preferences of their
members than the push of the Gospel.
Here are some suggestions on what you can do if you serve
in a church where people don’t want your church to change.
Again, please hear me; this is as much a challenge to me
as it is to anyone else. There is a Pharisee that lives in me.
Can
you imagine what would happen if Christians today exuded the love, truth, grace
and mercy of Christ?
Ø I
think the church would be different.
Ø What
attitudes do you need to check in yourself?
Ø What
other things have you heard that are impeding the mission of the church?
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a comment!
In addition to serving
as Lead Pastor at Connexus Community Church north of Toronto Canada, Carey
Nieuwhof speaks at conferences and churches throughout North America on
leadership, family, parenting and personal renewal.